As the festivities of the holiday season begin to ease, you’re no doubt relaxing those jeans buttons and starting to think about ways to shed the excess holiday Resolutions. Words like health, gym, green and fresh are ever buzzing and the allure to jump on the New Year’s resolution train takes off, but to where exactly and for what purpose?
For years we’ve looked at a New Year as a symbol of hope and a time for renewal. For many, if not most, it can be a second chance to finally get it right. To do something we’re proud of and to make it happen. Whatever the ‘it’ may be, the tradition of making New Year’s Resolutions have long been the push to get us going. Yet, somewhere between ‘I’ll skip today or oops, I forgot, the hype begins to dimmer, and so does the resolve. So what went wrong? Are New Year’s resolutions simply a waste of time? Let’s see.
While New Year’s resolutions have long been a tradition:
Whereby a person resolves to continue good practices or make a big jump, the problem is that while the intention may be good, the focus is often misplaced. This misplacement, in turn, has created a love-hate relationship with the idea of ‘New Year’s Resolutions,’ making them hard to sustain and ultimately fulfil.
For starters, a New Year alone will not magically motivate desires to fruition, but it may be the push needed to get you started. Closing the gaps on this ‘love-hate’ relationship starts by recognising, whatever the ‘desire,’ it must be attached to a clear ‘why’ and built into a clear ‘how’ we live our lives. The lack of this clarity results in many New Year’s resolutions becoming overwhelming, lacklustre, and eventually falling apart.
So if you’re at the crossroads of Resolutions:
Would like to take the momentum of a New Year to kick-start something ambitious, here are a couple of guiding principles to help you on your way.
First: Season, Simmer and Resonate. A New Year alone is not a reason to ‘want’ to live a better life, achieve or succeed. Instead, make your resolution (the things you set for yourself) personal.
Ask yourself: ‘why’ is this important to my life? How has NOT having this or doing that kept me from connecting with myself and the world around me in a wholesome way? Make a list of all the things you feel good and guilty about when you give into the opposite of what you’d hope to overcome or achieve. Then, allow yourself a moment to let those thoughts season, simmer and resonate with you before asking yourself anything else.
Get honest with yourself enough to become aware of where you are, what you’ve done and why now. The fact is that whatever we hope to do in life must be attached to us personally. We must be able to clearly see the ramifications of our actions or inaction and hold ourselves accountable for it. This reflection is paramount to devise a plan that moulds our resolutions into our way of living.
Second: Break the into Smaller Actional Goals:
Resolutions by nature tend to be broader and more focused on the end desire. Less on what exactly it takes to get you closer to what you desire. This means you cannot depend on New Year’s hype alone to get you through. It because it is not a process. It is a moment that will fade. Once the moment fades, so does the hype. Breaking the resolution into smaller. Reachable goals will allow you to better align and develop a system of living that. Connects with you mentally and physically.
For instance, this may be the year you’ve made up your mind to publish your first book.
While that’s all well and good, have you thought of what it might take for you to finish your book? Here we see the ‘resolution’ itself is quite broad; breaking the idea into smaller goals makes the once-grand resolution achievable.